Instead, remove the power, diffuse it. Visualise yourself standing tall and proud above the words or situation, package it up into a box but don’t then carry it around with you day in and day out. Send that little parcel back to where (or who) it came from.
In life things are allowed to annoy us. But if we choose to let this frustration become a permanent fixture of our lives, the only person we can blame for that is ourselves. If someone says or does something that is unpleasant, don’t react – respond. There is a difference.
When you react, it is usually done very quickly and is based on emotions not common sense. Because of how quickly a reaction can occur it may be out of your conscious control. If you can give the situation a bit of a breather, the time then allows you to respond. Responding means reflecting on the situation, perhaps looking at it with another perspective, which then gives you more control over your actions.
You don’t want to look back on a period of your life and wish you had have dealt with things differently. Or think you wasted your energy and time worrying about someone or something that wasn’t really warranted. Hindsight, hey?
So next time someone gives you the peeves or insults you – don’t give it any power. Hand it straight back to them. Don’t react, instead take a few deep breaths and give yourself time to respond in a way you would be proud of, not regretful about. The only person in charge of your emotions and thoughts is you.